Best way to get over it

I am dealing with a heartbreak right now, and I am sure there are other people here who have also suffered from a breakup.

What are your best ways to get over/heal from a broken heart or breakup.

Get together with some of your best friends and go out and have fun, or stay in and curl up on the couch with a funny movie (no romances though). Sorry to hear about it though. I hope you feel better soon. *hug!*

Even though you may not feel like going out and having fun, Morwenna's suggestion is a good one. You need to keep your mind off of it and focus on other things.

As said above, take care of and indulge yourself and never ever blame yourself or think that you are a lesser person. Sometimes things just end in a organic way and it wasnt meant to be - this does not devalue you in any way whatsoever

The ladies' advice here is very good, SPF. Time with friends, taking care of yourself, finding closure and having fun in other ways are all good ways to get back to being happy again. I'd add this: remember that you'll love again, and next time will be better. Take good care of you! We're here and rooting for you.

RedAngel wrote:

The ladies' advice here is very good, SPF. Time with friends, taking care of yourself, finding closure and having fun in other ways are all good ways to get back to being happy again. I'd add this: remember that you'll love again, and next time will be better. Take good care of you! We're here and rooting for you.

Ah, this thread is finally here. After reading all this, I must say I do agree with everyone here. Forgivness is another way of finding closure as well (even though it was scary as hell, but I did it).

I had women asking me out for the New Year's party, but I had to decline for that fact I felt pressured and it was kinda hard to choose too. At least some of them were respectful about it, and 2 of them were pouting , omg.

Overall, I didn't feel ready for dating just yet.

Well personally I've had several of this type of thing happening. So my cures are as follows....

- Go out with a lot of friends. You may feel like crap but them talking to you seems to dull your mind a bit.

- Cry. Put on a ton of sappy break up songs and cry. Crying is your bodys way of releasing chemicals and such to make yourself get over things faster and making things easier.

- Plan revenge. Even though you might be hurt and never follow through with the plans it somehow gives you a new sense of empowerment over the situation.

- Time. No one likes to hear this answer but it is an unchangable human fact. Time heals all wounds.

- Talk to people. A lot. Talking to people makes you think more clearly on the subject and helps for the healing process. Even if one of the people you talk to is your ex. Sometimes just talking the problem out with them can make you feel better about it being over. But the ex being willing to talk to you isn't always the case.

- Do what you like to do. Do it often. I like to write so I end up writing a lot. If you like to shop then do it but not on a huge scale. Go to a dollar store or thrift store and get little trinkets or a nice new cheap outfit to go with a new you. There are always sales on cheap make up as well if that is your thing.

Everything is a ritual in order to get yourself back into shape. Same thing with a healing wound. You take the steps needed to make sure that wound is clean and heals properly. This is the exact same thing. Not all of my advice may work for you personally, but I'm sure you can move things around, add/subtract, or even create a new ritual to best help you.

Thanks this is great advice.

I have found that time is a great way to heal, however I still cant listen to certain songs by The Cure or watch romantic movies lol.

I figured this thread could help other people too, so here is my advice/methods that have helped me.

Shopping
an awesome makeover
Talking with friends about their experiences.
Focusing on school work or a job

If you are at all spiritual, sometimes going through cleansing rituals are a huge help.

After a very traumatic and abrupt break up, I went through two gallons of holy water and nearly a dozen smudge sticks to clean my home, took a long, freezing shower to cleanse my body, and meditated to cleanse my soul. These things helped helped me keep everything under control until I was at a point in my life where I could better deal with my past trials. Everyone has different rituals for this sort of things, but I believe that rituals can offer a lot if you're open to them; closure, cleansing, inspiration, ways to cope and move on, gathering up the broken pieces of your life and trying to get them back in order.

^^ That's a really good suggestion, DD. A ritual gives you the chance to mark a major life change -- and it's something you conduct yourself, not something that happens to you, so it puts some power back in your own hands.

Writing it out helps. Well, it helped me when I got over an exbf.
You shouldn't really keep what you're feeling bottled up, especially if you're heartbroken. Talk it out or write it out.

Join a roller derby team. That's how I got over mine.

Fire

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Fire

Yes, arson is very effective.

Paint colorful words on rocks and throw them through the offending party's bedroom window in the middle of the night.